The truth Behind Being a Big Brother to Twins

Everyone asks how Nolan is taking the transition. The truth is, some days are good, some days are bad and some days (like today) are freaking awful. Let's face it...at this early stage my main focus is the babies. Unfortunately, most times their needs come first. Brian and I are trying our very best to make Nolan feel included, loved and special, but realistically we fall short too often. We've recently implemented a reward system where he gets balloons (blown up) that we drop into a cylinder tub. When the balloons reach the top he gets a prize. Um, no prize yet and we started Monday, although we feel like there is some progress in his behavior and realize it can't change overnight. The biggest thing is that Nolan realized quickly that after the babies were in the picture, we react to his screaming and try many different ways to stop him so he won't wake the babies (or scare them). We decided a couple days ago, we won't react anymore. He went through a screaming phase when he was younger and ignoring it was the only way that worked to get him to stop. Granted, now he is 3, so he may be punished for screaming, but we aren't going to rush in and try to make him stop. If the babies wake up, well...thus is life with 3 kids I suppose.

So today I filmed one of his fits. If you are a judgmental person don't even bother watching. Or if you do, don't bother commenting, I am my own worst critic. If you don't have kids and are on the fence about it...or are debating a second child...maybe you shouldn't watch this. If you have a sense of humor and a warm heart for parenting and little ones, pull up a chair and laugh at my expense.

After the camera was turned off, Nolan got even worse before I took away his favorite toy, which resulted in him falling into a pool of tears. Then he said, "I'm sorry I peed on the floor in the kitchen." WHAT??? Yep, the entire time I was talking to him on camera unbeknownst to me, he had wet pants... a BLATANT act of defiance he had done while in time out in the kitchen. When I checked there was a puddle of pee in his time out spot. On the floor that was just cleaned yesterday. And its only lunchtime....